Friends

Mom is at the cardiologist now to have her pacemaker checked and we're still waiting to hear when her biopsy will be. The oncologist called and said they are going to do a bone biopsy as it would show more definitively where the cancer originated...and said the hospital will be calling sometime today to set up the appointment. I stayed home to catch that call and dad drove her to her appointment....

Dad and I realized something today that we hadn't considered before... but are now prepared for:  Mom was aware of the diagnosis as well as the prognosis and at first, obviously, she cried as did we all, but then she perked up and the time involved was not brought up again.  Because of her dementia she had forgotten. When the oncologist called this morning she had dad ask him how much time she had left.  After he ended the call Dad sat down and told her (realizing she had forgotten) and all the emotions spilled out again... I had just picked up a call from my dearest friend, Sue, and mom came into the living room and interrupted me with a question ...  "Patti, will you promise me something?  Will you make sure all the days I have left are good ones?"  Well, I lost it....but promised we all would, including Sue and her husband Bob...they love my parents as if they were their own and they're always here for us. With Uncle Ray and my wonderful husband the only immediate family around, it's good to know Dad and I have them as well as other friends willing to be here for support at any time.

Mom, Dad, Bob and Susan
Last Thanksgiving